Monday, August 15, 2011

♥ 60 Islamic Ways To Keep Ur Husband's Love Forever ♥

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a
    female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife.

2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a
    home-maker,don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.

3. Smell good!

4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as
    soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

5. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”

6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives
    you something really to complain about.

7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems
    to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense
    of seeking help! If you think you want to solve
    legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling
    with the right person who can give advice in either:

  + Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be
     corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
  + Amicable divorce

8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you
    would like your husband to be kind to your own

9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other
    in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not
    demanding your rights

10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if
      you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level
      that he wants it.

12. Compliment him on the things you know he’s
      not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.)
      This will build his self-esteem.

13. Tell him he’s the best husband ever.

14. Call his family often.

15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then
      thank him when he does it. This will encourage
      him to do more.

16. When he’s talking about something boring,
      listen and nod your head. Even ask questions
      to make it seem like you’re interested.

17. Encourage him to do good deeds.

18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space.
      He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.

19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with
       food and shelter. It’s a big deal.

20. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him
      yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your
      fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm,
      you can tell him your side of the story and how
      you want him to change something.

21. When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU
      make me furious”, rather, “This action makes
      me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and
      circumstance rather than at him.

22. Remember that your husband has feelings,
      so take them into consideration.

23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt,
      especially if they’re good guys. Encourage
      him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up”
      at home.

24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing
      you do (and you can control it), then stop doing
      it. Really.

25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without
      him having to guess all the time. Learn to
      communicate your feelings.

26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.

27. Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on
      the internet and read some jokes, and then tell
      them to him. 

28. Tell him you’re the best wife ever and
       compliment yourself on certain things you
       know you’re good at.

29. Learn to make his favorite dish.

30. Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with
      friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up
      agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you
      back in the face because you get more depressed
      that you have a bad husband–and other people
      also think you have a bad husband.

31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished.
      If you’re a home-maker, take online classes
      and get active in your community. This will
      make you happy and a secondary bonus is
      that it impresses your husband.

32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you
      will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.

33. Husband and wife should discuss and
      communicate with wisdom with each other to
      convey what they like and dislike of each other
      to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or
      instructions like he’s your servant. “They are
      garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many
      times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet
      used to ask her how strong her love for him, she
      said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask
      her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to
      her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you
      have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”

35. Have a race with your husband and let him
       win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.

36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will
      remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper,
      inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.

37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do
      not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk
      like an elephant.

38. Do not leave the house without his permission
      and certainly not without his knowledge.

39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and
      pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

40. Don’t discuss important/controversial matters
      with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right
      time for right discussion.

41. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

42. Always let him know that you appreciate him
      working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes
      it easier for him to go to work.

43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

44. Brush your hair, everyday.

45. Don’t forget to do laundry.

46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities,
      such as new shoes, can be gifts.

47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about
      extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)

48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in
      his hobbies.

49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend
       all his money.

50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him.
      Flirt with him.

51. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your
      husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special
      dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).

53. Take care of your skin, especially your face.
      The face is center of attraction.

54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and
      tell him.Help him or provide resources, don’t
      wait until matters become worse.

55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the
      bonds of compassion and love between the two
      of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect
      that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil
      destroys the love between spouses, he is the
      most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like
      du’ah, and love only exists between spouses
      where Allah instills it.

56. Don’t EVER compare your husbands to
     other husbands! For example don’t say, “well
      her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …”
      (thats a killer!)

57. Be happy with what you have because no one
      is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you
      enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course,
      vice versa!

58. Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all
      wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure,
      And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels
      will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take
      to work, from time to time sneak in a little love
      note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch
      leave the note somewhere else for him to find,
      like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car

60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third
       of the night ) and ask him tO pray with yOu.


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